HEAL GROW GLOW

Since there is trauma associated with Dr. Kitakufe and Dr. Otto, and this has contributed to my own distrust regarding my father—given his work in York Region and the difficulty in understanding who his actual close colleagues are, aside from Dr. Bikangaga—I would like to be clear.

What I described in my previous blog post is based on my direct experiences with Dr. Shambe Mutungi and Maragret aka Mega who trained as a nurse, including how their actions overlapped with Kevin’s ex-girlfriend, Dr. Robina Sali.

I do not understand how there can be a lack of clarity around these overlapping situations (2016-2026), or why clearer communication is not being prioritized within these friendships and connections, including in relation to Vanessa Namazzi.

You cannot frame me as “dramatic” when I react to pathological liars.

Yes that includes you Vanessa Namazzi.

You aren’t in healthcare, but you are in sales.

You attended McMaster Uni (2009).

You know how your behaviour impacted my sister who is almost Dr. Glory Kabarungyi Mulera. You know how patient I was with you and your family.

There appears to be a significant amount of emotional and relational labour being carried informally within a group of millennial’s, and it raises concerns about the need for more accountability, maturity, and direct communication in how these dynamics are managed as elders are now in their 70-80s.

I am not relying on Vanessa’s mom when Vanessa and her mom are clearly never on the same wavelength and cause me 10,000 times more stress.

We have these Vanessa’s influencing Bethany (Nadia’s maternal cousin) before she can even understand the layers of what has happened or how Vanessa moves.

From 2012-2016, Robina was in a long-distance, on-and-off relationship with Kevin, but she was still connected via his sister (C) and mother (R), and had met me when I was already dealing with trauma from my situationship with Omi (2010) and the period following Victor’s graduation from Carleton University (2012).

I am providing this context so that all Ugandan parties and families involved understand the timeline, the connections, and the state I was in when these interactions and patterns occurred during the most formative years of someones student and career life.

This will help the fathers of these sons or daughters to also understand

“Why is Sigyi in the middle of all of this?”

What did their sons tell them, and what were they hiding?

Why do the sisters/cousins seem confused or constantly covering for them?

Think about it………… Kevin’s father. Victor’s father. Wamala’s father.

I have met all three of them as their son’s friend – not as a girlfriend.

1. Behaviour pattern (access → benefit → shift)

• People stayed close when there was perceived value (connections, support, access, or proximity to my family or friend network)
• After gaining what they needed or once their circumstances changed, the relationship dynamic shifted or was reframed
• This created a consistent pattern of inconsistency that felt calculated, regardless of intent. Now Kevin is Mark Mutungi’s brother in law!!!!!
• The shift in behaviour and alignment was real and observable from my lived experience

2. False allegation and reputational harm

• A claim was made that my father was responsible for Shambe’s father’s death from cancer (July 20 2007 – I was at the Kaye’s house when I got the news). This came from Margaret, who said that Shambe told her this. This was shared within the last decade. This is where Mark and Arthur could help clarify this serious allegation and harm, because it raises important questions around accuracy and accountability.
• Shambe received support from my father after her father died, both professionally (Clinicical/Pre-med/medical student shadowing) and personally (when she wanted to snatch Kevin from Robina and lived near them), so it is difficult to reconcile that with the current narrative after we met and appreciated Elom a lot.
• It does not make logical sense. This is why I am saying: take my parents’ images out of your wedding book. It feels like you carry negative energy.

• Margaret seemed to take issue when I wanted to protect Maya, which I found concerning. There is also a double standard in how reactions are framed—for example, when there are concerns raised about Jennifer’s mother babysitting Ezra, those concerns are taken seriously, but when I raise concerns about Maya’s safety and awareness around young boys interacting with a mixed Ugandan child, it is not received in the same way.
• Do people not understand Sakina Millington’s lived experience or context in situations like this? Do you not realize that I was a young child when I felt Mark was always targetting me, my sister and Laura?
• This is factually false and deeply harmful to my family’s reputation and for Mark and Samantha’s own healing and understanding of everything
• The support that Margaret Musisi gets is not the same as Mark Mutungi
• If Mark was always the “outcast” while Shambe and Susan took “lead” – then who are you Margaret to be playing multiple people and still acting like you are a safe friend and support system to other people’s children? I don’t need to have my own child or a man to observe an issue.

• This is not a misunderstanding or a difference of opinion, but a serious false statement that has not been addressed through proper debriefing—a structured process used to review harmful or sensitive events, clarify facts, and provide psychological safety through reflection and follow-up.
• This lack of debriefing and accountability is similar to the situation with Janice, who did not bring clarity after your Roses Group recorded our stories about sexual harassment and harm within the community.
  Not everyone was on that call to understand but Liz Kivuna was and has a daughter. Liz Kivuna knows enough about my trauma with this group and my trauma with men in general.
• Thank you Liz! Thank you Booties! Thank you Laura and LC.

My response is focused on protection and clarity rather than debates with Susan Nanozi, Shambe Mutungi and Margaret Musisi:

• I will document instances where targeting me is repeated, especially as it affects my family and friendship safety. Susan was so dismissive. Mbu “I wrote Martin a letter” – okay cool, and what about everyone else?
• What about Rachael?
• What the hell was actually resolved + how is Martin’s daughter feeling?
• Do you ever think about what it does to the CHILDREN of the parents you keep targeting with your 100000001 remixed stories?

It is also important to state clearly:

• Even if individuals benefited from my father, mother, grandparents, Nadia Matovu or my family at earlier points, that does not create loyalty or determine later behaviour
• I prefer clarity and do not like overlapping relationships
• I do not belong to any “male friend” and I owe none of you my time or patience or loyalty
• The only reason I choose to defend Kevin Shonubi over the rest of them is because I have witnessed his lived experiences and the confusion he faced as a newcomer from a High Profile family and as an artist who was pulled into relational turmoil and drama for most of his pre 40s
• His temperament has always been calm and introverted. He never forced anything with me, and he never intentionally confused me (in 2016); we simply ended up in a messy and drunk overlap when I was 26.
• I have no issue explaining the factual reality to Robina, Saida, or Gary.

What stands out most is the combination of:

• use of proximity for access
• later distancing or narrative shifts
• and, most seriously, introduction of several harmful false claims

This is why I am setting clear boundaries and addressing the pattern directly.

I am sure I am not the only daughter or adult child who has had to navigate the drama of these few people who have had too much “social” power over other people’s family realities and stories, based on rumours or their own made-up narratives at this point.

Here is some extra context for Tina and Julius Katumba Wamala to understand why they need to stop Belinda’s bullshit in 2026.

x Sigyi as herself and the child of Florence Ntambi Tabaro Mulera. #36