This statement is directed specifically at Tushabe (also known as “Shambe Mutungi”) as an individual, and not at Kevin Shonubi who was brought into her wider social circle and control approximately a decade ago.
Any reference to conduct, patterns, or boundary violations described below applies solely to Tushabe’s actions and behavior and how she operates with her Ugandan friendships.
Philipa Mugabi, Juliet Mugabi, Susan Nanozi and Margaret Musisi mainly.
Rowena is innocent. Julia is innocent.
The other 2-5 who don’t have siblings in this circle are innocent.
You can cross-check this with how she moved with Kevin Kerto. #2025
How she moved with Vanessa Namazzi and her Kaye family. #Bleachers
How she moved around Louise Tedoldi who protected us! #McMaster
I am formally setting clear boundaries since she is now 40 years old and has repeatedly interfered in my life and the lives of people close to me over many years.
If not for Louise Tedoldi, my short experience at McMaster University would have been worse. I have the email receipt from when I emailed my parents to inform them about bullying, but unfortunately my dad refused to understand my reality. It was not until I began standing up for myself at the age of 30, and continuing to do so to this day at almost 36—the age my mother was when she gave birth to me. #1990s #YearOfTheHorse
Tushabe (1986) presented herself to my parents and many other South Western Ugandan parents as the responsible Munyankole in this group.
I would choose Jackie Mukulu or Liz Kivuna at this point. #AskVanessa
Thank you Louise for being a real protective sister and not fake. I have never seen this social control group so clearly. Exclusion is not cool.
From a mukiga to a muganda – thank you, thank you, thank you.
Tushabe, the munyankore Canadian presents herself as a “kind” person who solves problems, and is ‘inclusive’ with these social events, cottages, camps and parties since Hamilton 77 club in 2008-2009 when she gave me HER fake ID so that we could party with them.
FYI, I hated everything about these parties and clubs because there was almost always guaranteed drama involving Shambe or Vanessa when they drank. Someone would end up fighting with them or trying to stop them from putting others in danger. Vanessa had Valerie and Brenda to help manage the consequences of her destructive drinking behaviour. I am Valerie’s age.
I had no one to support me in the same way, other than Louise and Jesus.
Tushabe escalates issues until they become 100,000 times worse, leaving others to navigate and clean up the mess while she is simply served by Elom to Kevin’s family and close friendships.
As someone who has been in Kevin’s social circle since he arrived in Canada while I was a teenager, and given his and Ken’s background at Budo and my Nigerian friendships, I have seen enough. I just wish I had met Amaka earlier—or, if I did during his time at TMU—that I had stayed in touch with her and kept distance from mutual Ugandan connections.
It becomes a concern when someone’s presence in a group creates more disruption than stability, especially when their relationship and drinking issues spill over into family and social spaces. #WhereIsPeterTheMukiga
The situation during her relationship with Elom (from around 2007 onward) felt like a continuous cycle of relationship instability and alcohol chaos that repeatedly affected those around her, making it difficult to keep track of the ongoing fallout.
I cannot separate what is because of Elom (2007-2018), what is because of Robina (2012-2016), what is because of Vanessa (2008-2026), and what is because of Sigyi (1998-2026) knowing too much and seeing it all so clearly.
I don’t judge friends who drink hard liquor or who are sometimes irresponsible when drinking.
However, if they cannot see how their behaviour has contributed to harm in my life, then I question why I am still having to address and sort out issues involving Robina and Omi. Then also Belinda Katumba and her brother.
#NabetaHealingIsTheONLYWayForwardHere #KenyanHealing #Slinging
Drinking with Jeninah, Esther, Faith, and Jeldin was not this dramatic. That is how I know there are unresolved issues that need to be addressed at the root, ideally with input from an elder—whether they drink or not—to stop excusing patterns involving Shambe and Mark.
Her behaviour has become so unpredictable, and I am sure Mark (1998-present) and I (1998-present) need clarity after she targeted us as children and continues to be hot and cold as Megan Miller is organized and helps.
Is she envious of our age group? Is it because Samantha gets along with Mark and me without issues? What is it?
How can Siime and Twiine be safe? There is a constant imbalance.
I need her to ask herself what is driving her nonsensical behaviour.
When is she going to be satisfied? When is it going to stop?
When can Chevonne and I laugh like normal human beings again?
When can Siime or Sam stop being labeled as the latest “emotional” ones, and instead be part of a broader reflection on leadership styles and behaviours affecting younger Canadian-Ugandans of Ankole descent? #Teaching4Success #Baino #Magara #GloriousHealthCanada
This pattern of behaviour has included:
- Repeatedly inserting herself into my personal friendships and social circles without consent, or remaining inactive when clear issues require resolution. #JayeBaino #Nalumu2022 #SafetyForYoungerWomen
- Using younger friends or mutual connections, including Mark Mutungi, Sam Mutungi, and Tayo Shonubi, to gather information about me and my family. #ThisIsLame #StopEntanglingMeganMiller #CheckYourMotives
- Involving me indirectly in sensitive situations, including a child custody dispute that I am not part of. #Ajax2025 #WhileTheOkurapasGrieve
- Interfering in or contributing to the breakdown of important relationships in my life. #VanessaNamazzi
- Showing up in personal or high-emotion spaces (such as periods of grief or major life events) in ways that are disruptive and inappropriate #AskingMeAboutSaulMushokori #HeHasAGirlfriend #WhatIsMakingMeStrong #SaferCommunitySpaces #SaferUGGroups
- Placing my parents image in your wedding book when they were not at any wedding celebration in Quebec or Uganda and don’t have a relationship with you. My mum tried to tell me many times that “they don’t really know our family.” So why are you making things awkward for your mum, Mark, Sam, and Kevin’s family? What do you do to make things easier for everyone since your father died in 2007 and left a gap in Banyankore leadership and oversight?
- Abbey Mushega cannot fill the role of multiple absent fathers while also being honest about his own lived experiences being unconventional and not religious, and still having his two sons who are in delicate stages of life. You had a lot of attention and time for partying, both with and without Elom, and you had my father and others helping you with your career direction and success.
- Can you calculate the time spent focused on Shambe versus their own children? #Baino #AreWeStillClappingForShambe? #ChildhoodCampTalks
DDUKA 2017 — It is important to prevent bullying from continuing to spread after it has already damaged people’s emotional wellbeing and disrupted family and social relationships over many years. Childhood to Adulthood.
I was warned by a UGANDAN BORN Canadian who is a muganda, and I am speaking up for myself as a CANADIAN BORN Ugandan who is a mukiga-munyankole and for others who have been affected by her or Mega’s pattern of bullying and social manipulation.
As people age and roles shift, she (Tushabe) has at times been perceived as a safe or trusted voice, which makes the impact more concerning.
These dynamics do not only affect individual relationships; they affect emotional health, trust, and the stability of entire social networks and family systems. Continued unchecked behaviour contributes to long-term stress, anxiety, fractured relationships, and loss of safety within communities.
Let’s look at where it all started:
In 2008 Mark Mutungi (1988) had parties with his friends like Ryan (Jamaican), Arsene (Rwandan) and David (Kenyan). These are men who are older than me. Sunday Mutungi (the older cousin) was a witness and showed visible concern when he could see Mark taking advantage of me (18) while also playing Megan Miller and other white women.
Thank you David + Ryan for having my back all the time.
I met Cassandra and I thought Cassandra was really kind and there were no issues until Megan stepped back into the picture and this is why I need her to understand the layers of chaos that has given me unnecessary headaches.
Ryan, Cassandra, Megan, and Mark were very messy and do not always address the underlying issues or resolve the root causes. So what do you expect to happen between Margaret Musisi and me with all these conflicts since Maya was born and Mark re-entered Ugandan social groups with children, and with no one—except her husband, myself, or a few others—doing the work to unpack the layers of unresolved issues from our teenage years to now. #CorMegaRaw4Eva #InsertPeterO #StopLying2WhiteWomen
My cousin Nadia Matovu (1990) was visiting me and my family during that year and it was the summer before her, Rachael, and I started University.
Nadia posted photos on Facebook of us drinking at Mark’s parents’ home shortly after his father, Edgar Mutungi, had passed away. This was a highly sensitive period for his mother, and the situation escalated into a serious conflict within the family and wider community.
From my understanding, the core issue for Mark’s mother was not only the loss and timing, but also the fact that images of her home—along with underage teenagers drinking—were being circulated publicly. As a parent and community figure, this raised concerns about responsibility, supervision, and reputation within the Ugandan community and church context.
Why don’t her adult children other than Samantha take accountability?
During this period, there was also confusion and conflicting accounts from different people involved, including both boys and girls, which made it harder for the adults to establish what had actually happened.
My mother was present as part of the group of adults trying to address the situation and get clarity. There were few munyankole Canadian mothers who were active in leadership or overseeing matters involving children and youth.
Within that context, I had already apologised directly to Mark’s mother (a card at the Kavuma’s home) for the part that our Newmarket group and cousins played, as most of us were under 19 at the time.
Margaret (then Kaaya) was the only person who was 19 and legally able to drink.
Margaret used her “age” and the fact that she was involved in the church almost as a subtle way of implying, “Mark’s mom is cool with me, not you.”
This is the part where I think it is really disrespectful. I don’t rate any UMCC “Reverends” child minus the one who minds her Black business.
First of all—you are majority Baganda, and that was self-serving.
You are and were never a real best friend.
You are someone who plays with people’s real-life situations for your gossip entertainment.
You did this with Renee, Maggie, Rachael, Shynelle, Britt, Alicia and me.
You collect gossip and behave in immature ways simply for social positioning and to gatekeep with Chevonne (a Canadian-Jamaican who has been there since Edgar Mutungi was alive) like Chevonne doesn’t know me.
This is why I’m addressing it all on my blog so you guys can grow up.
I was in shock by you and Susan’s behaviour at Mzee George O’s funeral (whispering to Rowena and ignoring me #LAME) and at Afrofest when you were around Jaye, Arthur, and Kerto. You’re such immature sisters. Real talk. Will and Arthur acknowledged me. You two are like high schoolers.
What was the whole point of roping me into your weddings and God-mother rituals? For money and social signalling? That’s what it looks like.
You both do not address conflict directly, but instead spread narratives that escalate situations while presenting yourselves as “too cool Gemini sisters for everyone.” This is what you did to Maggie when she was only 19, and what you have done to Juliet and Philippa on several occasions.
From my perspective, it appeared inconsistent and petty, especially given the Ottawa connections and inside context you were not even part of.
Jaye is a lugambo king. Jaye is in everything and always acting innocent. So I know Jaye and Margaret’s behaviours in groups where they want to appear powerful or “in the know” but know that they were not even the original foundation of our “Co-hort” age group like Ryan, Me or Vanessa were. #2016Cottage #2008 #Newmarket #Toronto #Ajax #Ottawa #Summers
I consider anyone who makes things worse for someone who is suffering to be lower level friends.
Petty. Immature. Not cool.
Thank you Pimpi Bitz again.
#Alex #Suyin #Larry #Darryl #Witnessness
During a decade when my mother and my health were already under strain, this behaviour came across as a poor reflection of character in relation to Jaye, Vanessa, and Margaret Musisi, as well as judgement.
I feel unsupported as a Black woman navigating this level of trauma, especially given the lack of Banyankole and my own sibling support in these situations.
I am isolated in Ontario but you want to act like you’re teenagers.
#ThankYouJenaNJimmay #ThankYouEsteeNPetah #ThankYouRungyi
You know we were born in 1990 or 1991 while you (Mega) were born in 1989 but placed in our grade. So ask yourself where your root insecurity and social games stem from, and hopefully take therapy seriously in 2026.
“It’s not about race, it’s about understanding a culture”. – your words right?
If I was a Muganda, I would have understood to follow and believe the Kiwanuukas out of the situation, since Margaret Kiwanuuka (Maggie) was targeted during that 2008 camp and you took full reign over that situation and confused me and her older sister. There is proof of this so don’t twist it.
That behaviour, along with comments from Amanda Tindyebwa—a Mukiga-Munyankore who attended Carleton Unverisity and barely knew me but was best friends with my maternal cousin Agasha—contributed to my decision to terminate the pregnancy with Omi Iyamu in 2010.
I encourage parents of teens and university or college students to develop closer relationships and friendships with their own children, to avoid others stigmatizing them or projecting their own family norms and fears onto them.
This is the most sensitive subject of my entire life and as a Mukiga.
I can only thank God for my paternal cousin Nyonza’s daughter, Aykaytia, being born during the aftermath of my trauma and breakdown after ten years of social conflict. Every time I see her face or joy with her Italian mom and Nyonza, something inside me heals and I also appreciate how kind her mother is.
The way Margaret Musisi refused to pay attention to my reality versus her interpretation of it is why I am upset with her and why this has become a community issue now. Stop talking behind Renee’s back to me and my back to Renee. She should know the truth. Why do you switch up on us?
I believed that nurses and doctors would be more sensitive to these kinds of medical trauma realities, but they have, in fact, been the most traumatizing for me.
This is not about blame; it is about contextual awareness of patterns of exclusion and comments from so-called “safe Ugandan friends,” whether they were projecting their own fears or otherwise. It became an issue. #JB
By the time I told my mother about the abortion, she could already see I was dealing with deep anger in my early 20s, and she was hurt that I had not told her about this medical trauma sooner.
My mother and my sister Jayne Mbabazi eventually became the safest space for me to share and process what I was going through and how it led to my Fibromyalgia diagnosis in 2016 and 2024.
I spent most of my holidays with the Bikangaga family, and they are among our closest family members and supporters of Grandpa Ezra Mulera’s family. They are also related to Nyonza. But there is still an emotional distance I have with my paternal relatives and family friends.
Part of it is because of how ICOB and FDC impacted my own life.
Thank you Ampiire for understanding me and just letting me vent at Mzee George Okurapa’s funeral.
That is why I seek connection to Christ and my Grandfather Ezra Mulera (RIP since November 5 2019). He was our Extended Family’s Pillar.
I am half from one side (Kigezi) and half from another side (Mbarara) — it is stressful. But that is why I relate to Kevin Shonubi (mixed tribes and Nigerian) and can see that Tushabe has no limits with her “I’m the Ankole Roses Queen” patterns.
Let’s look at patterns from 2016-2026:
A recent example as of 2025 reflects the continuation of these patterns.
I was placed between “Juliet” (referred to as a best friend ‘Juliambe’ on IG) and Denny (a groomsman from Kevin’s 2022 wedding in Quebec), without my consent and when they were aware that I was in danger as a BLACK WOMAN. Kerto said his mom is too strict so I couldn’t go to her place.
Denny was the ONLY option left.
I had just spoken with Esther and her now late dad, George Okurapa.
If I hadn’t been dealing with anxiety around Ajax and their lack of care, things could have been handled in a healthier way between Esther, myself, and Jeninah—no one else.
The brides or new wives and their mothers were in an entitled “grandmother phase,” acting selfishly (in my blunt mukiga opinion) and not considering those who were grieving.
Do brides ever consider the grooms friends or family?
Kevin Shonubi’s family barely knows these people, and Jeninah’s mom had no real context for the situation beyond her calm daughter. Yet you still tried to drag us into your nonstop, attention-seeking, “fake innocent” drama since you started dating Elom.
Did you ever resolve anything with Elom and Robina?
Did Liz and Linda ever resolve anything with me or Kevin’s caribbean ex?
It is now spilling over onto Vanessa’s family and mine. Caroline, Kevin Kerto’s cousin had no idea what was even going on. Esther didn’t know Caroline. So don’t drag me into tribal tensions that I don’t even understand in my mid 30s.
Kaddi and Adoch are the only links and they stick to themselves.
Tushabe and Liz – address your own issues and stop being fake.
This situation crossed multiple personal boundaries and is consistent with the same entitlement and targeting behaviors that occurred when I was under 19, now repeating into my 30s.
This pattern of targeting constitutes harassment.
Most seriously, false and harmful statements have been made about my family.
After 35 years of being confused by Ugandan communities and culture, I have noticed that there is often a distorted narrative that targets either Tailey’s father and family, Nadia’s father and family, or my father and family.
I am not saying that they are always innocent. It was me who was yelling for my own safety and voice over these last five years.
I prefer Ruth as a Kigezi leader and wish others in ICOB would stop bringing past issues into today’s needs for Kigezi and its people—especially given that both Ruth and I are women.
My mother is Munyankole, so she cannot relate to everything.
These include the allegation (Margaret and Tushabe) that my father was responsible for Edgar’s death by cancer in 2007.
This claim is completely untrue and contributed to most of my paranoia yet these two women could not even clarify what Shambe meant or what she felt.
If you have unresolved issues regarding the cause of death or the care team involved, why don’t you address them with the same man who supported your career and attended your graduation party with Rukundo’s dad?
Your dad passed away from cancer, and any suggestion otherwise is false and defamatory.
I saw your father when he was strong and when he was weak.
There has also been a pattern of targeting and seeking information about my cousin and others in my close circle dating back to when we were younger, as well as using personal relationships to create comparison, tension, or disruption.
Now I know the root issue and you need to come forward to Kevin’s father and my father no matter how many children you have.
These actions are not acceptable.
Going forward:
- I am not available for any communication, direct or indirect, with this individual (Tushabe Mutungi)
- No one is authorized to share information about me or my family on my behalf (Margaret Musisi)
- Any further false statements or interference will be documented and may be addressed through appropriate channels (Lawyers)
This is a firm boundary.
I am prioritizing my safety, privacy, and the well-being of my relationships.
If Margaret or Mark choose to clarify anything — Arthur can send the email.
HEAL GROW GLOW 
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