The only issue I have observed within this group relates to Carol (Julie’s cousin) and the situation involving the woman who misled Vanessa.
I would like to understand why Carol and Tushabe appear uncomfortable when Kabasigyi Mulera is around Vanessa.
From my perspective, this reflects a pattern similar to how discomfort arose when Louise Tedoldi was present, and I think it would be helpful to clarify what is driving that reaction.
From my perspective, others have already moved forward—Gilbert has moved on, Tabot is married with children, and Shereda has also moved on.
Given that, I find myself questioning why there continues to be ongoing tension and disruption within the UGANDAN circle.
Carol, you have stability in your home and work life, which is why I’m trying to better understand the source of this continued conflict and selective silence and appearances.
What I’m trying to understand is why there are ongoing issues, given that this was a long-established friendship group of people in their 20s, and you entered it as someone significantly older. #OldThingBack #RiverNaCo #2Truths1Lie
Disrupting safety and community for your personal gossip gain and comfort to get to your real estate goals in Ontario.
Additionally, I think it is important to acknowledge that some Ugandans who have moved to Toronto may not have historical context around UMCC or the broader community, including the founding families following the period after Idi Amin.
There are deeper layers and history that existed long before the more recent social gatherings, such as cottages, game nights, and summer weddings. 2016-2026.
I believe that understanding this context is important for moving forward in a more informed and respectful way.
It was mainly a safe, shared space until this one woman decided she wanted to pursue a Shonubi as her husband.
I have to say it that way because the only way she began “connecting” with me while I was in Uganda was “Me and Kevin want to see you” “ME and Kevin this and that” “Kevin Kevin Kevin!” —- It’s so irritating. Kevin was my friend. Mark was the brother that you said was toxic to me when I was under the age of 19. Elom carried your life since 2007.
Stop tokenizing Kevin! Who are you TUSHABE? #BlackQueensRepublic
He was part of that safe space group and was vulnerable, coming out of a relationship with a woman who saw her future with him. I was one of the only people telling him to be careful and to take time to learn himself outside of a relationship. I had enough insight because of what Robina shared with me and what Kevin shared with me.
So please don’t try and rewrite me into a narrative that makes you look “holier” than thou.
I have preached this message since BEFORE Omi Iyamu.
He was in a relationship with Janet and lied to me. He acted like it was a break-up that happened long before we met.
No.
It had only been two weeks.
He destroyed trust between multiple women and friendship groups. One who is actually Mark Mutungi’s friend. Mia!
That is why I am putting this shit out in the public because I will not allow Shambe and Omi to DOMINATE spaces with their tactics when you are FORTY YEARS OLD and MARRIED.
I am following Esther and Omi on LinkedIN to make PEACE.
I want Esther and her sisters to understand ME as ME.
Please don’t assume that the years of trauma involving Ehi and Richard—and the belief that Omi was someone I loved—are no longer visible. That history is still reflected in their actions and the confusion that remains.
Richard knew me well enough to recognize when things did or did not add up. He also met Victor.
At this point, Richard has enough context about Uganda and the trauma we experienced to understand the situation more fully.
Tushabe (Mark Mutungi’s eldest sister by only 2 years) started pulling others into smaller cottage groups and events without me.
I didn’t care, because she is four years older than me and I noticed these events were always filled with drama and attention seeking behaviours.
I respect boundaries— Kevin is an adult, not my brother.
I wish Chevonne had HER TIME TO SHINE though!! #2019
Things shifted when Tushabe married Kevin far away from his siblings and mother. #2022 #QuebecCity
After that, everything escalated and spilled into the church community, even affecting people who weren’t at the wedding or involved in any of the events leading up to it in October 2022.
She had a child in 2023 and another in 2025.
Between 2022 and 2025, there were multiple incidents she did not resolve—she kept shifting blame or framing others, including me.
This is where the Juliet and Denny situation entered my life, as well as the Okurapas, during a time when grief had just affected them.
This also happened while the Kertos were navigating multiple narratives and conflicts that did not begin with Kenny and Kevin Kerto. Breaking trust among friends over what felt like unnecessary “main character” dynamics will always stand out to me as deeply disappointing.
At this point, I genuinely release every Ugandan brother who we grew up with that ends up marrying outside this specific ‘main character’ group. It’s exhausting.
Like “real talk” the way Kerto would say.
You may find more peace elsewhere.
All of this happened while I was unhoused, even though we had supported them financially, physically, practically and emotionally for over ten years.
So now what is your excuse if I can pick up the phone and call Martin and his family directly?
So can Rachael I’m sure.
We are all people who did not owe your family ANYTHING.
We did not have to step in after EDGAR MUTUNGI died in 2007.
People lose a parent and grieve without exploitation.
Since you STILL INVITED ME TO AN EKM EVENT in 2026… I am making this shit a public awareness issue and not a behind the scenes framing of people while collecting our stories and trauma.
From my perspective, a few things stand out in regard to the union that we all supported in October 2022 – Quebec City:
1. I saw something early that others didn’t (or didn’t want to).
I encouraged Kevin to slow down and focus on himself after his toxic long distance relationship with Robina Sali.
That was reasonable, especially since he was vulnerable.
He didn’t understand how well I could read the Roses group.
But when someone is determined to move quickly into a relationship, outside voices like mine often get pushed aside. But yet he always looks bothered! It bothered and bothers me because I have HISTORY with Kevin as a friend and as someone who is looking out for him when he’s drunk.
I didn’t smother him the way Vanessa and Shambe did.
Vanessa sometimes acts like it’s the “guys fault” — but Vanessa we have witnessed you since high school.
2. I noticed a gradual reshaping of the social environment.
I saw people being pulled into smaller groups, events happening that excluded certain individuals, and a tighter inner circle forming. It didn’t always look obvious, but it quietly shifted who had access, voice, and trust—including with Margaret, Rowena, and Vanessa.
3. I observed patterns of isolation and narrative control.
First it began at Jaye Baino’s house when she came with Rowena and Kevin with that question game. She was asking personal questions and Kevin was answering them honestly.
This is why I stand up for Kevin.
He opens up, and people don’t want to respect his own voice and his own way of reasoning. People in this circle also do not fully respect Yoruba or Nigerian culture and people.
When he got married away from his siblings and mother in Quebec City, and conflicts started spilling outward while blame was redirected, I recognized that as a serious pattern.
I’ve experienced situations being reframed in ways that made others—including me—look like the problem, which created confusion and division.
I will not be a bystander to on going and repetitive harm.
You will not speak on behalf of me or my mother.
4. I was giving more than I was receiving.
I + my parents supported them practically, financially and emotionally for years, even while I was unhoused.
That was a major imbalance.
That is something I can never forget.
My parents packed up and sold 85 Sherwood Glen in 2017.
I began living with Christen South, then Brenda Chu, and eventually near the Bluffs. Thank God for the Bluffs.
Thank God for the gift of Christina and her family.
Thank God for the moments that I had with the Scarborough crew of Ugandans and all of my Tangerine homies pre and post 2020.
I cannot thank those friendships and people enough.
Now they have context. Kindness goes a long way.
Stop being fake with this EKM brand and think seriously.
HEAL GROW GLOW 
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