HEAL GROW GLOW

Why I’m Careful About Working With People Who Blur Boundaries — and Why I Value Ethel Muhumuza’s Blunt Honesty and Patience.

#BrockUniversity #CarletonUniversity #CanadianCitizenBoundaries #CanadianCreativesMatter #AriesRedemptionSeries #GeminiRedemption

As a self-taught creative shaped by the principle in Matthew 7:12 (“So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets”), certain experiences change how you move—not out of fear, but out of clarity.

A few years ago, I connected with Belinda Katumba in a creative and professional context after meeting her alongside Spencer at Tina Ford’s home in Ontario, Canada. This was during the transitional summer of 2020.

At that time, she presented a polished PowerPoint proposal around November 2020, to pitch a “Season 2” collaboration idea that was directly based on my Instagram content, intended to benefit her Can We Talk podcast, which she later rebranded as Can We Talk 256 Social Enterprise after taking a bunch of my ideas in Canada and Uganda.

#RedFlag #UnethicalBusinessnessPractices #LoveBombingFriendshipTactics

Her brother already showed consistent patterns of dishonesty and disrespect – Vanessa Namazzi and Ethel Muhumuza warned me – but I ignored the warning signs. I genuinely overestimated my ability to avoid this man’s exploitation because I only saw him as a player.

I assumed players play the field and then act differently in “friendship,” especially since he is Agaba’s friend from school and knew that Agaba’s mother, my mother, and Ken Mwine’s mother were best friends. This is similar to how his mom is apparently best friends with Tina Ford’s aunt.

I am writing their names on this special day of Ethel’s because nothing is hidden when it comes to the turmoil that Julius Wamala Katumba brought to OUR FRIENDSHIP GROUP!!!!!!

The Bitature’s deserve transparency so they know who is actually there to support their family and their business growth > compete with their children and cousins. If you have unresolved issues with businessman’s daughters or their sons, they ought to know.

Uchicha’s father included.

Tina’s fords maternal family deserve to know.

I already met Maurice! Melissa! Chacha! #2016 #Toronto

Her brother was already aware of ideas I had been developing privately, and so was Sheila, whose brother is someone Belinda’s brother introduced me to in 2014. What you did behind Agaba’s back is not even normal behaviour.

Belinda interviewed both Sheila (a half-Muganda woman in Canada) and me (a half-Mukiga, half-Munyankole Canadian-born woman) on one of her podcast episodes while she was staying in Toronto in 2021, and allegedly “lost the episode,” she claimed. That was one of the most vulnerable and exposing episodes about our families, while you and your brother continue to take information and later exploit and compete with Sheila’s family, my family, and our friends and circles that are all overlapping because Wamala Julius knows zero boundaries.

But see how much she gained and then rebrands like a social enterprise in Kampala, when that’s exactly what Ethel’s cousin, Dr. Tailey Bitature, is.

Given that context, I find it difficult to ignore the pattern of behaviour that followed. Over time, I experienced what I consider to be repeated instances of disrespect—not only in terms of personal and body boundaries, but also creative and professional ones.

Who are you outside of Tina, Sheila, Jarren, Asianut and Sigyi?

I am asking both Julius Wamala Katumba and his ‘Can We Talk 256′ sister, Belinda Katumba: what is your creative identity?

What are your personal passions, and when did they begin?

What is your story?

Where do and when did Sasha, Timothy, and Agaba come in, and how much did they influence you into the path of “managing” Tina Ford in 2015/2016?

Why do you no longer credit creatives or respect the people you used?

What made you feel like “investing” money or “helping” others like Tina Ford, 1Der Jr, or KB Mulera (me) would give free rein to use Bakiga, Banyarwanda, Bahima, Banyankole and other creatives without our consent, in shared spaces and in front of witnesses?

What did you tell Dax Vibes, Bobbi Wine and Elijah Kitaka – the Baganda artists? I can hear their music and know that you guys are playing artists.

From my perspective, there appears to be a recurring pattern where ideas and energy are taken from creatives, artists, and friends, while maintaining an appearance of innocence. This has been frustrating and disappointing to witness and experience.

That is why I decided to learn about creatives like Lucy Smize, Tayo Shonubi and Elijah Kitaka, myself.

I’m raising this now because accountability and clarity matter, especially given that these events took place in front of multiple witnesses and within a professional creative context, and also involved the exploitation of mental health stigmas. This occurred when you and your group were aware of my vulnerabilities and lack of support. I consider you connected to the assault that was orchestrated by Douglas Kyoma in 2021 and I will stand on that.

Vanessa Namazzi and I are still owed formal apologies from multiple parties who played with our trust, from Wamala to T.

There is nothing hidden between Sheila, Vanessa or Sigyi anymore.

This is a public call out for public awareness and accountability.

Elders – Canadian Schools – and Omi Iyamu.

I met Wamala when Omi Iyamu drove Agaba Nkuuhe to see him at Seneca College in 2010. I need Agaba to begin taking accountability for his actions. Every time Agaba hides behind Phyllis’s safe friendship space, he creates a false identity that shields him from taking accountability with my parents, Tendo, and Tina’s family.

Agaba left me to fight these battles, and I can forgive him because I understand his context—but he and all men need to understand the ripple effects of their inaction. Thank God for a mother like the late Aunt Jessica and an outspoken friend like Matthew B.

You can’t rebrand with Asha, Leah, or women who aren’t aware of the history.

We were with Amanda Tindyebwa while he was a newcomer student at Seneca College in 2010.

Amanda is Ulrich Mugamba’s former roommate. Amanda was also targetted by Wamala, in the same “light skinned women” obsession streak that he started with Vanessa’s friend, Samantha F.

I included Wamala because I thought he was trustworthy if Agaba let him into what was a SAFE house (240 aka Temby) until YOU came with your dutty circle of exploitative bayaaye boys.

Lest you forget my non Ugandan friendships like Katherin Diez who is now a mother to Shawn Irvine‘s daughter. Shawn Irvine passed by suicide in June 2020. I did not need a Belinda Katumba robbery after that. I genuinely cannot stand you both and your lack of accountability in friendship circles.

If you believe that playing with Spencer’s sensitive and private situation involving his late father is comparable to my relationship with my mother, I want to be clear that I will continue to stand firmly for my mother’s dignity and respect, as well as for my own dignity, voice, creative signature, and testimony.

How is your new two-bedroom apartment and dog doing? #CanWeSteal416

Context for those who don’t understand the layers of what was done: she left her parents’ big home, which had her own room and Brenda’s room, while I was homeless and just surviving at my cousin Doreen’s or Timothy’s house in 2022-2023, because she was able to afford renting on her own using my ideas that were generating income for her in Kampala, without any real compensation. Thank God Doreen’s son noticed that something was off with her behaviour and Clara’s before I did. Then it became more obvious when you dragged Jillian into your business story-line for years.

2023-2026. Then you move onto the She Knows Best podcast……………

In creative work, copyright is the legal and ethical protection given to original content the moment it is created and fixed in a tangible form—this includes things like written ideas, visual content, videos, and digital media.

TABOO TOPICS by Kabasigyi-Bakahondo Mulera cannot be rebranded.

I had African Canadian creatives from countries like Nigeria and Somalia invest in the season because of ME —— and in the shared “goal” and “idea” that you so subtly acted like you were genuinely interested in.

Do you understand the Black or African Canadian experience?

Did you ever consider the cost of living in 2020?

Did you think it was so easy for us to be kind while collectively struggling?

Your actions did not match your presentation. You are a spoiled Military child. My relatives and friends witnessed you and your own family witnessed you before Brenda passed away.

Copyright law means that others cannot copy, adapt, or commercially use a work without permission from the creator. So your question game was curated and produced in ways that were exploiting my lived experiences and free content/work/ideas and so much physical, emotional and intellectual labour. Do you remember Tina and Rasheedah’s birthday? 2021

You acted like you had a “team” coming up with ideas but you had friends who were enabling your toxicity and unaware that you were undermining them to me, behind their back.

That’s why I asked Sheila (Aisha’s bestie) in 2023, if she was truly okay with what you were doing to her. She doesn’t know that you introduced me to her at the spot that was owned by Anne Kansiime, then talked behind her back when she left and at your birthday in March 2022. You clearly have a “thing” against Bakiga women in my humble opinion. Our nonchalant selves seem to trigger something inside of you.

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For independent creators facing financial or professional challenges, such misuse can be especially harmful, affecting recognition, income, and future opportunities.

Photos by Agandy Studios in Kampala, Uganda 2023.

THANK GOD FOR VANESSA SMITHERS from Toronto. #AfricanScotian

THANK GOD for FORTUNE IBARE-JONES from Toronto. #NigerianCanadian

Vanessa brought hope back into my life through her work and writing. I will hire her as a personal narrative consultant in a few years, as I am still healing from this experience of public exploitation.

Fortune just saw me beyond the pain, the substance- and grief-induced psychosis breakdown, and everything involved in finding my soul, my voice, and “me” after that heavy disrespect, with multiple Ugandan and “church” folks being, to be honest, the worst. No safe space felt safe after 2023.

I know Vanessa Smithers thanks to Vanessa Namazzi and David Mr.Writer.
I know Fortune Ibare-Jones thanks to my former roommate Alexiou.

Alexiou bought a Can We Talk game – and so did a few others who met Belinda and believed that she was an honest person doing honest work.

I want to be clear that my intention here is no longer escalation, since she continued doing what she does best (lie) on Duchesse Iraduhaye’s podcast.

Thank you, Duchesse, for taking that episode with her in 2025 down and separating your creative identity as a Burundian and new Canadian citizen. I know your work ethic and discipline because we met at work while we were at Tangerine, and you showed us your personal blog and photography journey.

I know how creative you have been for a long time, and you can relate to being a self-taught creative and someone also struggling to make ends meet. I am sorry that you had to get caught in the Ugandan drama fire from 2021 to 2025. This is why I value Burundians. I noticed a calmer temperament.

This is something I experienced in Ottawa, Toronto and Rwanda. I have never had any bad experience with a Burundian.

Thank you so much for being a kind and humble community that also is marginalised in Canadian and some East African settings. #Achilles

2026 is going to be the year that we get acknowledgement of the importance of respecting creative ownership, proper attribution, and consent in all professional collaborations. Do not mix Business & Friendship.

You can learn from Canadians now.

I want to be clear about my boundaries and my expectation of mutual respect in any creative or personal interaction moving forward. Thankfully Tayo is professionally trained in theatre and a Nigerian-Ugandan woman.

I hope that somehow her brother Brian and my cousin Tina will help us navigate a painful experience and we will be drinking a great glass of South African wine in the end. Gen X/older Millenials have carried a lot for us.

Thank you.

Now the next blog post will address the bigger issue: stigma within mental health—particularly how it is sometimes weaponized by people who claim shared experiences or understanding, only to later turn those same narratives against others.

Heal, Grow, Flow

with Kabasigyi-Bakahondo.