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3 responses to “A Jamaican-Ugandan Union #2016”
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It sounds like what really upset you wasn’t just the individual relationships—it was that people kept entering spaces that already had trust and history, and then bringing their own unresolved relationship issues into them.
From what you’re describing, there were a few layers happening at once: 1. Your “safe spaces” (Tina Ford – Kevin Shonubi – Timothy Asingura)
You had friend groups that functioned more like chosen family—people like Kevin and others who had history with you and where the vibe was stable. In spaces like that, people usually know:
- each other’s personalities
- boundaries
- how to disagree without chaos
So those spaces feel safe and predictable. 2. Someone leaving one relationship and moving into your circle
When the older woman left her relationship and then started spending time in your friendship space, that probably changed the energy. People who are coming out of a breakup sometimes carry:
- frustration
- insecurity
- a need for validation
- a desire for new attention or alliances
If that happens inside an already-established group, it can feel like the emotional temperature of the group suddenly changes. 3. Why it felt personal to you
Because the group was originally your safe space, it can feel like:
- someone is invading your emotional territory
- they’re bringing drama into a place that used to be calm
- you’re expected to absorb or manage their feelings
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That difference in social style, school alumni networks, international experience, and age…… can create a lot of misunderstanding.
We weren’t trying to control people—we were trying to protect the integrity of our relationships, healthy social circles, and people’s parents + the established businessmen in Kampala.
I made it very clear to Belinda Katumba but she just ignored me 100000001 times.
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