HEAL GROW GLOW

For the youth and young adults in our overlapping communities

This title is inspired by Mami Deb and her new all-female travel reality series, Vibes and Visas. The show follows ten bold, adventurous women as they explore different countries and cultures, blending:

• Adventure and travel
• Friendship dynamics
• Unfiltered reality moments
• Cultural immersion in new places

Season one kicks off in Uganda, highlighting everything from local experiences to the challenges and growth that come with travel. It premiered on December 10th on the Play It Loud app, bringing together a cast with distinct personalities who react to new environments, relationships, and the unexpected thrills (and drama) of life on the road.

When I saw Mami Deb’s store, Boujee, during a past trip to Uganda (I honestly can’t remember which one), Nadia Matovu immediately came to mind. That’s how much my awareness extends—I can recognize real “Bougie” energy versus imitation on a budget. And I say this because I’ve witnessed what imitation can cost: the hurt it causes friends, the strain it places on families, and the confusion it creates for youth watching us as elders, older sisters, aunties, and so-called “sisterhood.”

Something I need to say—clearly and without confusion:

I am interrupting a generational pattern.

Not just in friendships, but in how dynamics play out within Kampala and across the diaspora. For too long, there has been a quiet culture of imitation, competition, and boundary-crossing—especially toward people who are building with intention.

I’ve seen it up close. I’ve experienced it directly. And I’m fully aware that some people knew exactly what they were doing—to both my cousin and me.

This isn’t about assumptions. It’s about patterns.

Patterns where:

• Proximity is taken for access
• Inspiration turns into imitation without acknowledgment
• Support is expected, but not reciprocated

That cycle ends with me.

Not through conflict—but through clarity.

Tina & Emma Ssemanda’s Wedding – Kampala, Uganda, December 2021 Dress by Rwandan-Ugandan designer Rasheedah aka Miss Shee.

Miss Shee started during the pandemic and you can order here: https://miss-shee.com/

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I’m no longer participating in spaces where:

• Boundaries are ignored
• Integrity is optional
• People move in ways that disrupt safety, relationships, and community trust

What I am choosing is different:

• Intentional community
• Aligned collaboration
• Relationships rooted in respect, not silent competition

This isn’t about controlling others.

It’s about choosing not to carry what was never mine to hold.

For those building with integrity—you’ll understand this shift.
For those who don’t—this boundary will speak for itself.

I’m moving forward with clarity, and that’s enough.

Heal, Grow, Glow
with Kabasigyi-Bakahondo ✨

Recommendation for Further Healing and Breaking Cycles:

✨ Check out a Canadian-Ugandan content creator from Newmarket:
Claire – her content focuses on Girl Talk, Beauty, and Self-Love!

Claires sister, Tracy, is someone who has overcome her own obstacles, and I relate to her deeply. We’ve both carried the weight of family challenges, stepping in as second parents to younger siblings—or, in my case, to my nephews and niece, who are Claire’s age or just a few years older. We both went to Sacred Heart Catholic High-school + she’s a Capricorn! #Organized

💡 Gen Z—the leaders of tomorrow.