Trauma at Carleton Uni #Healing #AbortionTrauma

I experienced early adulthood in diaspora communities, and I quickly learned how manipulative relationships and social toxicity can shape my sense of safety. I became pregnant at 20 in the context of a relationship where gaslighting and relational manipulation were constant. I had to navigate overlapping social networks and cultural expectations that amplified my stress and isolation.

I witnessed patterns of harm that affected not just me, but others around me. I felt betrayed, silenced, and at times powerless in spaces that were supposed to support learning and growth. I have learned that my trauma is valid, real, and not my fault.

I am reclaiming my narrative by acknowledging the harm I experienced, setting boundaries for my safety, and seeking support where I can process it. I know now that even in the face of betrayal, manipulation, and social judgement, I have agency over my healing. I am choosing to recognize my experience, validate my feelings, and take steps toward recovery. My voice matters. My story matters. My lived knowledge and academic knowledge-matters.

Peace to Brenda. #Kenya
Peace to Janet. #Tanzania
Gratitude to Illunose. #Nigeria
Gratitude to Jane. #Nigeria

Heal, Grow, Flow
with Kabasigyi-Bakahondo