HEAL GROW GLOW

Our East African communities — Uganda, Rwanda, Burundi, Kenya, Tanzania, Somalia, Ethiopia, Eritrea — and our global diaspora, women and men alike, deserve better than this cycle of exploitation disguised as opportunity or friendships. I write this as an East African woman, but I have also witnessed Ghanaian, Congolese and Asian women targeted amongst these circles too.

For too long, vulnerable individuals—especially women with education, status, or the support of other women—have been preyed upon by those who cloak their harmful behavior in the language of mentorship, coaching, development, parties, vacations, or diaspora connection. Toxic power dynamics have thrived unchecked, fueled by silence, complicity, and the fear of disrupting the status quo.

It ends for me, now. People like Rachael Nalumu and Omi Iyamu have done this for far too long without being held accountable.***Thank You Esther Ariyonde-Iyamu 💞💞🇬🇧🇺🇸🇳🇬🏆 Wiz! 🇹🇿

What I Challenge Others to Do:

• Accountability: Those who exploit, manipulate, or abuse their power—regardless of nationality, status, or title—should be held accountable within our families, business associations, school networks and circles of friends.
• Protection: Our communities must create safe spaces where survivors can speak freely without fear of retaliation, psychiatric punishment, stigma, or isolation.
• Education: We must educate our communities about the signs of emotional abuse, stalking, manipulation, and exploitation—empowering everyone to recognize and challenge toxic behaviour.
• Solidarity: This is not a women’s issue alone. Vulnerable men, like Uchicha and others, also deserve our support, awareness and recognition. Many women play men in their power games instead of healing from their trauma.
• Cultural Change: We need to pay attention to the structures that allow power to be weaponized against the vulnerable—whether through wealth, status, or diaspora prestige.

Why This Matters:

When exploitation is allowed to continue, it damages not just individuals but the fabric of our communities and culture. It silences truth, fractures trust, and stunts the potential for genuine growth and unity as a people working towards East African unity.

I call on community leaders, influencers, organizations, and individuals across East Africa and the diaspora to join me in rejecting exploitation and building a culture rooted in respect, dignity, and justice.

What You Can Do:

• Listen to survivors and believe their stories.
• Call out toxic behavior when you see it, even if it’s uncomfortable.
• Support organizations and movements that protect vulnerable people.
• Use your platforms to amplify voices demanding change.
• Educate yourself and others about power, privilege, and abuse.
• Make sure they never cross the line with me or my cousin again.

Over it,

Kabasigyi-Bakahondo Mulera. ❤️‍🩹🇨🇦–🌍#INFJ #Honestly #BlackWomenHealToo